THE ANSWER IS NO, BTW! If you have to be told not to 'grope, lick, fondle, or fuck the exhibits' you might not be in a "traditional museum." In my last post, MAIL TIME: Vulvas Protect from Evil, I shared a postcard that was purchased from the Vagina Museum in London, England. Of course, I had … Continue reading Are Groping, Licking, and Fondling Allowed at Sex Museums?
One of my favorite things about starting this series is diving into the psyche of people across the globe and learning what they infer as NSFW or erotic. Not only do I get to travel across the world, but even through time. This postcard is of an 18th-century illustration by Charles Eisen. The original image … Continue reading MAIL TIME: Vulvas Protect from Evil
When I think of pin-up girls, one woman comes to mind immediately and that is Bettie Page. And, lucky for me, this postcard of the gorgeous Bettie Page arrived this week. It is a photograph taken by Bunny Yeager in 1996. Bettie Page was a pin-up model who gained notoriety as 'The Queen of Pin-ups' in … Continue reading MAIL TIME! Bettie Page Postcard
What do you do when you’ve been in quarantine for nearly a year (323 days according to my watch), are unemployed with the inane difficulty of finding a job during a pandemic, and an unrealistic stockpile of stationery products? You turn the excess time and unused stationery into a hobby. Let’s pause for a second, … Continue reading Introducing MAIL TIME! The Erotic Postcard Series
Have you ever woken up one morning to something that just made your soul sparkle? Well...maybe not sparkle...but something that fills you with such joy and gratitude that you can't help, but share it with the world. ✨ ✨ Two days ago, my soul sparkled. ✨ ✨ Whenever I share posts, I receive immediate feedback … Continue reading A Thank You to Sparkle the Soul
Four score and seven years ago, long before COVID-19 decided to turn the world into a game of The Floor is Lava and confining us to our cages homes, I recorded with NVT Studios & K101 Podcast! If you don't remember who the crew of wonderful misfits are or the podcast they produce, Mr. NVT … Continue reading The NonVanillaTryst K101 Podcast Talks Crotch Cooties and How to Avoid Them
Some of the links in this post are affiliate links. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. If you click on the link and purchase the item, I will receive an affiliate commission at no extra cost to you. All opinions remain my own. In a perfect world, COVID (WEAR YOUR FUCKING MASK … Continue reading Love is an Open Book
One of the worst calls I could receive plagued my missed calls a few weeks ago. The return phone call was nerve-wracking. A cheerful office assistant asking how I could be helped didn't negate the fear and the time waiting for my transfer to be completed felt thrice as long as normal. The resolved voice … Continue reading Crotch Cooties and How to Avoid Them
You can read Parts One, Two, and Three before this, however it isn't necessary. There are no words to describe the never-ending pain of abuse. It isn’t the single action or the days or weeks or months that follow that impede on the victim. It’s an entire lifetime. Every future action or reaction taken is … Continue reading Jewell’s Love Story Vol. 4
As previously discussed in Isn’t Polyamory Just Cheating?, polyamory (shortened as poly or polyam) is having, or being open to having, multiple committed relationships with the KNOWLEDGE and CONSENT of everyone involved. Polyamory comes in many different shapes, sizes, and colors. One of those designs is a triad or a trio of persons who are in … Continue reading Hunting the Mythical Unicorn, an Unethical Tale
A fellow member of a kink related group on Facebook asked about kink related holidays, and it got me wondering what sort of sex, love, and kink holidays are there? I've always been interested in unique holidays and even have a favorite website for learning about new holidays. Holiday Insights has always been my source … Continue reading Holidays of Sex, Love, and Kink
Agender: a person who is without gender. Binary: A word meaning “two of” used to describe social understandings based on the two common genders; either male or female Cis-cis: a person who identifies as such because of their assigned sex and they maintain traditional gender roles and psychological feelings in accordance with their assigned sex. … Continue reading UPDATE! Sixteen New Terms in the Glossary
I am still on my How I Met Your Mother kick. Admittedly, I paused watching it to watch Psych, because one, there was supposed to be a new Psych movie released in December (it got pushed back) and two, my Hulu kept fucking up and the sound and video would be off. It was like watching a poorly … Continue reading HIMYM’s Lily’s 50 Reason to Have Sex
There's been a little bit of a lag in new posts going out lately and it's not for lack of content. I have content for days, weeks, months, even years. It's me. Yes, I know, the overused 'It's not you, it's me' line, but it's true. I've been struggling with my relationship with myself. Admittedly, … Continue reading Self-Care for When You’ve Hit Rock Bottom
It's almost a little shameful to admit that there's a good chance I've had sex in an additional 10 states and DC, but honestly, I don't remember. Some sex is just not memorable. 😳😳😳 Never-the-less, I have a goal of having memorable sex in each of the 50 United States and the providence of Washington, D.C. … Continue reading Fuck It List: Have Sex in All 50 States
In the last couple of weeks, we've been discussing podcasts surrounding sex, polyamory, swinging, kink, and other sex-positive communities. There's one that deserves to be highlighted above all others, and it's not because they had me on their podcast as a guest host. Take a peek behind the leather curtain for all things kink, BDSM, … Continue reading Recording with NVT Studios & K101 Podcast
Bisexual erasure/invisibility: the tendency to ignore, remove, falsify, or reexplain evidence of bisexuality in history, academia, the news media, and other primary sources. Noetisexual: a mental attraction rather than a purely “intellectual” one and being attracted to the way their minds work rather than simply one ill-defined facet of it. Photo by Waldemar Brandt on Unsplash
Erotic Awakening Dan & Dawn 4.2 out of 5.0 290 Ratings An informative and entertaining exploration of all things erotic. From sacred sexuality to fetishes, Power Exchange and polyamory, BDSM to erotic spirituality, non-standard relationships to alternative love styles, as well as simply fun kink. Savage Love The Stranger 4.6 out of 5.0 4.5K Ratings Dan … Continue reading 13 Sex, Kink, and Lifestyle Podcasts
Trifecta Love The Trifecta 5.0 out of 5.0 22 Ratings Welcome to our podcast! Hosted by Carly, Paoulo, and Kassandra. 3 people in 1 relationship. We take you through our journey of love and life in our polyamorous relationship. We started this podcast to break the stigma around non-monogamous relationships and share with you what … Continue reading 13 Relationship, Polyamory, and Swinger Podcasts
My guilty pleasure television shows are Friends and How I Met Your Mother. When I'm having a rough time, I generally turn these shows on in the background and do random things on my phone or computer, including write blog posts about watching said shows while watching said shows. An episode that has been background noise for … Continue reading HIMYM and Canadian Sex Acts
There's been a lot of posts on Facebook lately about Languages, be it Love Languages, Self Love Languages, or Apology Languages. Maybe it's just my friends, or maybe it's a trend that's flowing through all of Facebook. Most of the information on Facebook has been in the form of pictures with a grid that described … Continue reading The 5 Languages of Love
This is a seven-part series touching on everything from your metamour and paramour tag-teaming to tea you to the numerous metaphors used to describe your polycule's calendar. Thank you to all of my polyamorous family in the multitude of Facebook groups I'm in for their contribution to this post. By no means is this list … Continue reading You Know You’re Polyamorous When Vol. 7
This is a seven-part series touching on everything from your metamour and paramour tag-teaming to tea you to the numerous metaphors used to describe your polycule's calendar. Thank you to all of my polyamorous family in the multitude of Facebook groups I'm in for their contribution to this post. By no means is this list … Continue reading You Know You’re Polyamorous When Vol. 6
This is a seven-part series touching on everything from your metamour and paramour tag-teaming to tea you to the numerous metaphors used to describe your polycule's calendar. Thank you to all of my polyamorous family in the multitude of Facebook groups I'm in for their contribution to this post. By no means is this list … Continue reading You Know You’re Polyamorous When Vol. 5
This is a seven-part series touching on everything from your metamour and paramour tag-teaming to tea you to the numerous metaphors used to describe your polycule's calendar. Thank you to all of my polyamorous family in the multitude of Facebook groups I'm in for their contribution to this post. By no means is this list … Continue reading You Know You’re Polyamorous When Vol. 4
The roles below are those available to select on Fetlife. There may be other roles or more in-depth definitions of the roles. The definitions are the bare minimum for each of these as everyone's relationships and statuses vary on a spectrum. Pet: a bottom who enjoys animal play or a pampered submissive treated as a … Continue reading Roles in the Fetish Lifestyle (P-Z)
The roles below are those available to select on Fetlife. There may be other roles or more in-depth definitions of the roles. The definitions are the bare minimum for each of these as everyone's relationships and statuses vary on a spectrum. Handler: a person who performs the Top role in pet play, most commonly (but … Continue reading Roles in the Fetish Lifestyle (H-O)
The roles below are those available to select on Fetlife. There may be other roles or more in-depth definitions of the roles. The definitions are the bare minimum for each of these as everyone's relationships and statuses vary on a spectrum. Ageplayer: a person who engages in role-play in which one or more of the … Continue reading Roles in the Fetish Lifestyle (A-G)
Fast forward with me, if you will, a decade and a half. In a previous post, I told you I have only been in love twice. Two. Two times. And my second time was fourteen years after the first. I've spoken of my second love previously: PawPaw. We met in Chicago and so romantically...on a … Continue reading Jewell’s Love Story Vol. 3
This is a seven-part series touching on everything from your metamour and paramour tag-teaming to tea you to the numerous metaphors used to describe your polycule's calendar. Thank you to all of my polyamorous family in the multitude of Facebook groups I'm in for their contribution to this post. By no means is this list … Continue reading You Know You’re Polyamorous When Vol. 3
This is a seven-part series touching on everything from your metamour and paramour tag-teaming to tea you to the numerous metaphors used to describe your polycule’s calendar. Thank you to all of my polyamorous family in the multitude of Facebook groups I’m in for their contribution to this post. By no means is this list … Continue reading You Know You’re Polyamorous When Vol. 2
As I've said before, I'm not an expert. I don't have a degree in sex or relationships. Even my psychology 'degree' is the minor attachment to my Investigative Forensics Bachelors. So, I thought it only fitting to give you my own experience in love. You've read some of my most recent experiences, so let's start … Continue reading Jewell’s Love Story Vol. 2
As I've said before, I'm not an expert. I don't have a degree in sex or relationships. Even my psychology 'degree' is the minor attachment to my Investigative Forensics Bachelors. So, I thought it only fitting to give you my own experience in love. You've read some of my most recent experiences, so let's start … Continue reading Jewell’s Love Story Vol. 1
You Know You're Polyamorous When Vol. 1 There's been a lot of serious discussions in the last couple of weeks, so let's have some lighthearted fun. This is a seven-part series touching on everything from your metamour and paramour tag-teaming to tea you to the numerous metaphors used to describe your polycule's calendar. Thank you … Continue reading You Know You’re Polyamorous When Vol. 1
Let's face it. Most of us aren't going to walk into a coffee shop for our morning cup of joe, see a face across the crowded room and fall madly in love at first sight. Even fewer of us will marry our high school sweetheart -- I sure won't be. Some of us may find … Continue reading Adventures in Online Dating Vol. 1 MeetMe
Let's face it, we've all been there. We've fallen for someone hard enough that when the relationship inevitably ends we shatter into pieces. It's no wonder they call it "falling" and "breaking". 🙄 I've personally been going through the process of getting over a break-up. In How to NOT Transition into Polyamory, I talked about … Continue reading Don’t Go Breaking My Heart
Not finding articles on the information you're seeking? Want to read about something specific? Have a question about something you really want to know? Let me know! Comment below if you have anything else you want to read or know that I haven't already discussed! Photo by Emily Morter on Unsplash
What happens when you get five friends together? Drink beer. Smoke cigars. Talk about sex. Create new sexual terms. Part of the conversation popped up about the vagomach (the part of the abdomen that pooches out over the vaginal area after a woman has experienced childbirth), which sparked the discussion of what a man's pooch … Continue reading Check Out Our Urban Dictionary Entry
Limerence: The state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship. Also known as New Relationship Energy (NRE). New Relationship Energy (NRE): The exciting feeling at the beginning of every relationship. This can last … Continue reading UPDATE! Three New Terms in the Glossary
An incident occurred this weekend that spurred possibly the most important topic when it comes to relationship and sex: Consent. Before we go into what happened, let's discuss the definition of consent: According to Wikipedia, "consent occurs when one person voluntarily agrees to the proposal or desires of another". Merriam-Webster defines consent as "compliance in … Continue reading No means No. Silence means No. Drunkenness means No.
Happy Pride Month and Happy National Sex Day! Similar to our discussion on Gender Identities, in the effort of full disclosure and to ensure minimum backlash for this post, I am by no means an expert on sex, gender, or expression of either. I am a demi-bisexual, heteroromantic woman. Should any of what is said in … Continue reading Sex Sex Baby. Sex Sex Baby.
Graphoerotica: The kink or fetish of writing and/or drawing on your partner. Nullo: The abbreviation of Total Genital Nullification. This is the act of removing the genitalia completely or making it unusable. Total Genital Nullification: This is the act of removing the genitalia completely or making it unusable. Photo by Romain Vignes on Unsplash
Need some sexy motivation, sensual instigation, or kinky stimulation? Listen to this playlist and comment your own additions. https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6XgGEFUYW9rauYCIgDBO0T Photo by Blaz Photo on Unsplash
Queerplatonic (or quasiplatonic): a relationship that is not romantic but involves a close emotional connection (platonic) beyond what most people consider friendship. The commitment level in a queerplatonic relationship is often considered to be similar to that of a romantic relationship. People in a queerplatonic relationship may be of any romantic or sexual orientation. A … Continue reading UPDATE! Two New Terms in the Glossary
Nantaimori: The practice of serving sashimi or sushi on the (usually naked) body of a man. (see nyotaimori for female platter). Nyotaimori: The practice of serving sashimi or sushi on the (usually naked) body of a woman. (see nantaimori for male platter). Sploshee: a person, either nude or clothed, who partakes in being covered by … Continue reading UPDATE! Six New Terms in the Glossary
Happy Pride Month, my lovely peoples. In the effort of full disclosure and to ensure minimum backlash for this post, I am by no means an expert on sex, gender, or expression of either. I am a cisgender woman; I was assigned female at birth and I express myself as female. Should any of … Continue reading Cis, and Trans, and Non-binary, oh my!
Ambigusweetie: A partner whose relationships aren't clearly defined. Bigamy: A relationship in which one person has two spouses. Bisexual: A person who is attracted to people of the same gender and other genders. Cheating: A type of unethical non-monogamy where a person has multiple sexual or romantic partners that do not all know of each … Continue reading NEW PAGE! Glossary Is Up And Running!
How did I transition into polyamory? Well, I woke up one day and said you know what...I can love two or more people equally and so I was polyamorous! 😂😂😂 If only breaking into any lifestyle was that easy. 😩😩😩 My pathway into non-monogamy and polyamory isn't one I recommend, but it's a path I'm … Continue reading How to NOT Transition into Polyamory
There's this inevitable desire to Google anything you don't understand or want to learn more about. Unfortunately, Google is only as strong as the content created by us bloggers and companies. In that respect, a lot of the information portrayed online is biased, lacking full information, or just flat out wrong. In regards to polyamory, … Continue reading Isn’t Polyamory Just Cheating?
