Isn’t Polyamory Just Cheating?

There’s this inevitable desire to Google anything you don’t understand or want to learn more about.  Unfortunately, Google is only as strong as the content created by us bloggers and companies.  In that respect, a lot of the information portrayed online is biased, lacking full information, or just flat out wrong.

In regards to polyamory, that’s where I come in.

Hi, everyone.  I’m Jewell and I’m polyamorous.  Cue the Alcoholics Anonymous-esque “Hello Jewell”.

Do me a favor and Google ‘polyamory’ and see what comes up.  Don’t want to, okay, fair enough, I’ve done it for you:

  • Definition: the philosophy or state of being in love or romantically involved with more than one person at the same time.
  • Myth-busters
  • Pictures of multiple people coddling one another
  • News articles about this ‘sexual revolution’, and
  • People questioning whether polyamory is legal


Polyamory is, in the minimum, the practice of being romantically involved with more than one person at the same time.  There are so many ways to practice polyamory, though, and rules to help maintain healthy relationships.

There’s a large misconception that polyamory is the practice of ethical cheating.  Let’s settle this now: if your partner, girlfriend/boyfriend, spouse, significant other, friend with benefits, whatever you call your counterparts in your polyamorous relationship, does not know that you are also with other people that is cheating and not polyamory.  Adultery, although it happens between a married person and someone who is not their spouse, could be the state of being in love or romantically involved with more than one person.


Rant over.

So, let’s define polyamorous better than ethical cheating:

Polyamory (poly) is having, or being open to having, multiple committed relationships with the KNOWLEDGE and CONSENT of everyone involved.

So, what makes me the expert on polyamory to bring all this information into one source? Not a damn thing.  I’m here to share my experiences and all the information I’ve learned from the partners and friends I’ve made since joining the polyamorous community (yes, it exists).  For the sake of everyone’s privacy, no names, including my own, will be mentioned.

Want to read something specific? Leave me a comment or send me an e-mail!


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