The roles below are those available to select on Fetlife. There may be other roles or more in-depth definitions of the roles. The definitions are the bare minimum for each of these as everyone’s relationships and statuses vary on a spectrum.
Handler: a person who performs the Top role in pet play, most commonly (but not exclusively) with pups and ponies.
Hedonist: a person with a strong focus on the pursuit of pleasure, especially the pleasures of the senses.
Hotwife: a married woman who has sexual relationships outside of her marriage, with the full knowledge and consent of her husband.
In chastity: a person is prevented from access to, or stimulation of, their genitals, save at the choice of their partner.
In service: a submissive who has negotiated a transfer of authority with a dominant.
Kajira: a Gorean term for a slave girl.
Kajirus: a Gorean term for a male slave.
Keyholder: a person in chastity, who has psychological or physical control over when the chastity can be released.
Kinkster: a person characterized by “unusual” or fetishistic sexual preferences or behavior.
Kitten: a person who identifies as a kitten or cat in pet play.
Leather bottom: a person within the leather community or tradition who receives action from a Leather Top.
Leather Daddy: a paternal figure within the Leather community or tradition in a dominant role.
Leather Mommy: a maternal figure within the Leather community or tradition in a dominant role.
Leather Top: a person within the Leather community or tradition who performs an action on a Leather bottom.
Leatherboi: a person who is involved in and/or identifies with the Leather community in a submissive or subordinate role.
Leatherboy: a usually masculine-presenting person who is involved in and/or identifies with the Leather community in a submissive or subordinate role.
Leathergirl: a usually feminine-presenting person who is involved in and/or identifies with the Leather community in a submissive role.
Leatherman: a usually masculine-presenting person who is involved in and/or identifies with the Leather community in a dominant role.
Leatherwoman: a usually feminine-presenting person who is involved in and identifies with the Leather community in a dominant role.
Little: a person who takes on a young persona. Masochist: a person who enjoys receiving pain or humiliation.
Master: a usually masculine-presenting owner of a submissive or slave.
Mentor: a trusted adviser or counselor with considerable knowledge and experience to someone who has already gained basic knowledge and experience, usually “the same side of the slash” (Dom/Dom or sub/sub).
Middle: a person who is a little who identifies slightly older, as pre-teens or teens.
Mistress: a usually feminine-presenting owner of a submissive or slave.
Mommy: a person who takes on a caregiving role in a relationship, frequently seen as nurturing.
Owned: a submissive or slave who is the consensual partner of a Master or Owner.
Owner: a person who has possession of another, usually a slave or property.
All definitions are obtained from BDSM Glossary, a glossary of terminology related to BDSM/Kink/Fetish and sexuality.
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